Saturday, March 25, 2006

Growing up = Becoming more mature?

I just read an article posted on a fren's blog which is about 'maturity'. Overall I think that article was very well written and there is one particular quotable quote by Eleanor Roosevelt (Wife of US 32nd president), which really impressed me very much. Here is the quote:

“A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably.”

So, do you agree?

Personally, I think the word 'maturity' has a broad definition. In terms of physical development, maturity means the stage whereby all the structures of the body have been completely developed and can function fully. On the other hand, maturity can be defined as a quality of behaving and thinking like an adult.

So, what are the behaviours and thoughts that an adult shud hav in order to be classified as a mature person?

A person who does not think only in absolutes?

This is quite true. Ppl always tend to make their judgement based on wat they believe without actually analyse the situation carefully. For instance, our society always thinks that those who do not perform well academically are fated to be failures in the future. However, is this neccessary true? Undeniably, a good education qualification does play a role in securing a good job in the future, but what makes a person to be successful in his or her career is the level of dedication in achieving the goals in his or her working life. Hence, there are no absolutes in one's fate but there are plenty of opportunities and probabilities in one's life.

Mature ppl=objective ppl?

I must really agree with this because I think it is extremely hard to be objective when we encounter certain issues in our life. However, we can always try to be more objective by tackling the situation from a third party's point of view, as in try to analyse the problems as if you are not involved in it. For example, whenever you have an argument with someone, always try to view it as if you are a third party to the situation, and think of possible solutions to solve the problem. Remember, don't let your emotion affects your judgement.

Are you good? or bad?

Indeed, there are both good and bad in every single person, every single thing in the world. Nth is perfect in this world. Always, if possible, try to accept both good and bad qualities of other ppl. No one will like to develop bad habits and attitudes. They are not perfect because they are still learning how to be good, n this learning process continues until the end of their life. Therefore, dun hesitate to give ppl chances to turn over a new leaf.

Are you humble enough as a mature person?

Do you like a person who is humble and is willing to learn things fr others; or you prefer someone who is always boast about his or her achievements? Make your decision if you are mature enough. If you expect ppl to be wat u want them to be, you shud oso do the same thing as well.

So, do you still think that you are a mature person? Well, I m definitely not an immature young lad anymore. However, I think I stil hav a lot more to do in order to be a MATURE PERSON.

Cheers!

4 comments:

LiempehH™ said...

arlo...u mature adi la..
can vote now la...
can buy beer adi la...
n better u be mature, or not i won't have any one to fall back upon here!especially, when it comes to certain things* ^^

Wei Kang 小康 said...

Shu li:
Haha..i baru mature mar...so sumtimes i will still b a bit 'childish'...ahaha...
but seriously, mature ppl can watch cartoons oso mar...Sum ppl not mature yet but have already watched 'mature' movie...hehehe...

And 1 more thing: mature ppl wun slap their forehead..coz IT IS HURT!

:P

Anonymous said...

only matured ppl would play a game filled with killing, backstabing, gangbanging and foul words. a game like dota =P

Anonymous said...

hey hey~~my dear dear is mature enough.. always teach me what to do and how to solve my prob..like my sinseh(teacher).. there's something that i must mention..my dear dear never get angry wan..is he abnormal? or too kind hearted already? hehe.. oklar, in conclusion matured guys are good..cos matured guys will sayang their gf better.. and i have found one :)